The phrase “the truth is sometimes bitter”, is one we all can reckon with at some point in our lives. When a lie sounds better than the truth, we tend to spin the version of a story that brings less pain. I know this because I’ve done it myself.
We recall memories of our past not too pleasant and we paint a sugar-coated tale that makes it seem less real. We dwell on fantasy as it proves better than reality.
Choosing not to be vulnerable, as we feel the truth would make us seem maybe even pathetic. But our stories, all of it, the bulk of our experiences have pooled together to make us who we are.
There is no better way to heal from trauma than to face it head-on. It’s how we become stronger, it’s how we grow and learn from it. The life lessons we can extract from them, are what would make us better prepared for the future and positioned to handle further challenges that may come our way, and these also help us to avoid repeating similar patterns or past mistakes.
Some teach us to be ashamed of the past, but when we own it, all of it, we shine brighter than we could think, for the real self is allowed to evolve into something, someone beautiful and strong.
We say we don’t want to attract pity from others, and that’s why we hide our real selves, we shade the true story, but no, instead it makes us draw true warmth and closeness from humanity, not looking for sameness or familiarity in others but acknowledging our very imperfections, and that in itself is okay.
I’ve found that in holding back, misunderstandings tend to arise, but as the bible says, the truth can set you free, it liberates and eliminates unnecessary distance from your goals or that which you intend to achieve, it fosters even emotional intimacy. Some set up a wall blocking all of the things they do not want to remember from their lives, and in a way, these things could weigh one down in their raw form. However, when processed, they could serve to plunge one forward to the next thing, they could pave a path for the next step to take.
There’s just so much wisdom to glean from scriptures, and this summarises what I hope to bring out from this writeup:
Have you experienced so much for nothing? Surely it was not in vain, was it?Galatians 3:4 NLT
Did all your experience mean nothing at all? Surely it meant something!Galatians 3:4 GNT
I ask you these things, these questions as I ask myself. The point of experiencing life is to learn from it. Indeed, all of life’s experiences would be a waste, if we’ve learnt nothing from it; from the good to the bad, to the downright ugly…
It’s up to us to make life have meaning, for all the going throughs to be worth something, to bring out something substantial from it all. You own your story, so tell it right, no matter what kind of picture it might paint, there’s no use shading the truth, for it’s only a temporary ink and it could never erase a permanent mark.
In the end, the distortion harms… Wanting to be impressive or perceived better at one’s expense isn’t worth the trouble. Shatter that glass of self-deception, and embrace all that you are. Say yes to authenticity and the wholeness that comes with it.
Stop Chasing Shadows… Be authentically real.Zizi
Love and Grace,
© Zizi 2021.