Spoiler alert! This is a birthday post. I turn silver today, a quarter of a century. Cool ain’t it? I’ve decided to share some of my favourite life lessons with you as a birthday memoir.
The lessons span my core three topics on the blog: LIFE, LOVE and of course GOD.
This post is a listicle. There are some of the lessons that are like personal quotes, and others in long-form format.
Remember how I view life as an ever-evolving learning adventure, where we learn new things daily, even unlearn and relearn stuff.
That’s my philosophy towards life, its how I view humanity, our very existence.
It is said that the moment we stop learning is when we eventually start dying. Do you pay close attention to what life tries to teach you amidst the mundane activities? Or are you much too distracted by the noise? I hope we get to listen more going forward.
Whenever life gets overwhelming, because it surely can. Don’t forget this mantra of mine: Remember to PAUSE and BREATHE.
In no particular order of significance, here they are:
- You appreciate things a lot more when you’ve waited for them. The longer the wait, the more you appreciate and value them.
- Whatever you do in love and for love, whatever selfless sacrifice it is that you’re making, remember that love is reciprocal (giving, mutual, thoughtful, and considerate).
- Man is made to go through trials, through challenges and diverse temptations that we might feel the need for God.
- Don’t hustle so hard to the point that you’re unhealthy physically, spiritually and emotionally. A lot of times, we find ourselves waking up to the harsh realisation that we’ve spent a huge chunk of our lives trying to be something that we’re not meant to be.
- When scared, sceptical or afraid to do something that you know is right, just pause and breathe, relax and trust in the flow. It’ll be over in a minute, you’ll do brilliantly well and realize it’s not so bad an experience.
- Social media can make you dissatisfied with your life if you let it, so don’t. It’s so easy to fall prey for the societal need for approval and validation. But that doesn’t last very long or give one much true value. The real significance is conferred by a higher being. The one true creator: God.
- Forever is such an awfully long time. In the same vein, forever is not enough with the right person.
- Life’s challenges are designed not to break us, but to bend us toward God.
- When you’re seeking clarity, everything in the universe will speak to you. It’ll show you the answer on what to do.
- When you’re feeling conflicted about something, choose the answer that gives you peace. Going for the choice that robs you of your peace can’t possibly be worth it.
- When confused about choices and decisions, pause and breathe. Take a moment and strip yourself of everything else, every worry, and focus on the one thing that matters the most, that you want. The one decision that you can make freely without regrets. Then do it passionately, laying aside all else. Trusting that everything will eventually figure itself out and fall in line.
- Be wary of people that speak badly about others to you. They’d surely speak badly about you to others.
- Life is like a continuous metamorphosis. A never-ending growth cycle. When we end one, we start another. We never stop learning and growing. Ours is to stick to Christ and His word through each growing phase or process. We get stronger and better as we become conquerors through every hurdle and challenge.
- In life and in love, whatever vision you can’t get behind, don’t bother trying to follow. As you would only end up feeling frustrated and regretful.
- If you don’t declare who you are in God, or don’t know your worth? What you are, whose you are? Essentially, having an identity crisis (knowing life’s hard and core questions; the who and the what you are, can only fully be answered in Christ: He gives us our identity), will lead to situations, circumstances and people defining and dictating it for you.
- Change is more than just wishful thinking, it’s a decision and a discipline.
- Activity, or the degree to which you’re busy, is a false standard by which to measure the quality of our lives. Life is all about balance and until we thoroughly comprehend it’s true meaning and purpose, we’d live a dissatisfied life.
- Experience teaches us to learn from our mistakes but some are really costly. Some could easily be avoided by being perceptive.
- Lust could never satisfy the way love does. The sweetness, joy and satisfaction that love brings transcends the body, fills the heart and permeates the soul while lust is felt only in the body. Love brings long-lasting satisfaction but that of lust is temporary and fleeting.
- A battle is already lost, and failure is inevitable, when you voluntarily step outside of God’s will, through a moment of weakness, from succumbing to human pressures.
- Never leave things to chance. Things don’t just happen, they happen through strategic planning, targeted moves and informed decisions.
- You can’t have the capacity to love if you haven’t experienced emotional healing.
- In passion is where you find purpose. You know you’re passionate about something when even though you’re tired you still do it.
- Sometimes it’s when we don’t feel like we have anything to offer that God takes our “not enough” and makes it “more than enough.”
- If you stand for nothing, you’d fall for anything. So stand for something. If you don’t stand for the truth, you’d most definitely fall for a lie.
Bonus: “You’ve got to push yourself to do certain things because no one will do them for you, or even push you to do them.” This post is an example of such.
I remember when the idea came to me weeks back to write it, I delayed for so long thinking of the hassle to curate it and dig through journals and a lot of previous stuff I had written on social media and my computer notes.
However, I eventually got to it knowing I can only give this gift once.
I mean, I can only turn 25 once and use the above title once, hence, that became all the drive and motivation I needed to put the post together and gift it to my world, to you reading this right now. I hope it was a worthy and enjoyable read.
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